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Life Lessons of a Military Wife (overseas in Europe!): We are They

Life Lessons of a Military Wife (overseas in Europe!)

My goal here is to make your life easier, especially those who are in the unique situation of being a military spouse. Yes...I've been around...but in a good way...and hopefully can share those tips, tricks and shortcuts with you too. I've been on this military bus for over 40 years now. My goals in life are to have a well-run home, few money worries, well adjusted children, money socked away and whatever happiness I can scoop out of life.

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After life as an Army brat, being in the Army myself and marrying a soldier, I can honestly say I have a bucket full of life lessons I can share to help you make your everyday life easier and enlightening. Don't waste your time making unnecessary mistakes and benefit from others who have come before you on your journey through life.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

We are They

I had a run-in with someone's wife yesterday, who can only be labeled as a complainer...a whiner as they say in the military....someone who I think actually relishes in complaining about others and how they do things. Now I'm not saying there aren't good enough reasons to carry on about something that bothers you. We all have been in that situation, haven't we. But when you start seeing a pattern of someone complaining about how "they" do this wrong and why do "they" do the things that might not be norm for them. I've finally come up with an answer to someone who persists along this line of thinking...and it at least gets them to shut up...and if I'm really lucky, it gets them to think about things.

I reply, "We are they?" and then smile. Huh? In other words, instead of sitting on your fat duff complaining about what everyone else is doing, why don't you be a bit proactive and do something about it yourself? Why not voice your opinion in a different light, giving your ideas and input of how it can be done differently and perhaps more efficiently and then lending a hand in the implementation? Maybe if you get yourself involved it'll give you a greater sense of worth, a newfound energy and little twinkle in your eye where it was just plain dull before.....and you wondered why no one wants to hang around you....just some thoughts to chew on...



Blogger Linda said...

I like that! We are they....must remember that.

Amen, sister.

August 19, 2008 at 4:43 PM  
Blogger dyceedo said...

Well said!
When we were stationed in Germany, our post was loaded with complainers and people who were just plain unhappy. 99% of them were not involved in anything and never went anywhere. When I tried to encourage a wife to get involved with her FRG, she replied, "I will not hang out with those people". I looked at her and said, "YOU are those people". Since we have been in the military, I have found the most puzzling thing to be that so many wives want to distance themselves from everyone else. The military life can be very hard on families, and leaning on one another for support is one of the easiest/free gifts we have.
Oops...I guess this hit a nerve....didn't mean to write quite so much!

August 20, 2008 at 7:06 AM  
Blogger ****Veteran Military Wife at Life Lessons of a Military Wife**** said...

Absolutely well said! You ARE those people...gotta remember that....I've heard those comments too!

August 20, 2008 at 1:59 PM  
Blogger Kirsti said...

HI!! I came across your blog while I was searching for stuff about the military..I am 23 years old and a US Navy wife and right now, I'm on our first ever deployment..It sometimes is tough that I don't have anybody to talk to regarding my feelings about being a Navy wife, because nobody would even dare to listen as it sounds too hard for them to take in..I think I'll like your blog and your posts, so would that be all right with you if I come back here anytime I want to?! I also linked your blog to mine so I can always come back here and so others would also know about you..Thank you in advance and have a nice day!!

God bless you!!

August 24, 2008 at 2:33 PM  
Blogger ****Veteran Military Wife at Life Lessons of a Military Wife**** said...

That is about the sweetest thing anyone has ever said! Thanks so much, and you are welcome. When I get the chance, I'll stop by your site.

August 24, 2008 at 3:15 PM  
Blogger Jerry said...

I remember living in Germany and meeting people who would tell me how terrible the place was (which always would lead me to raise an eyebrow, because I loved it!). However, I learned that they literally NEVER left their dumpy little apartment except to go to the PX or something. No, friends, Germany isn't awful... STAYING IN A DUMPY APARTMENT FOR 23 HOURS A DAY IS AWFUL! That would be awful anyplace! I am so glad that you posted this. People need to be willing to come out of their shells a little in order to have any insurance that they can see what is actually around them.

July 10, 2009 at 7:58 PM  

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